What's the deal with recipients not reimbursing for bags?
What's the deal with recipients not reimbursing for bags?
If you are a recipient, do you offer to compensate for bags? If not, why?
Jaz- Posts : 35
Join date : 2010-01-14
Re: What's the deal with recipients not reimbursing for bags?
For shipping, if you are a recipient, it helps the donor mama a lot of you can arrange to have the insulated box shipped right to her home, send her FedEx forms already filled out, and give her the contact information and details of how she can call to have the box picked up from her home the morning it's ready, so she doesn't have to lug the box to a drop-off location. Or offer to call for her to arrange the pick up if she's incredibly busy.
I'm sorry you had a bad experience, thank you for donating, we do appreciate you and all your hard work!
IzzeFloch- Posts : 30
Join date : 2010-01-05
Age : 57
Location : Los Angeles
Re: What's the deal with recipients not reimbursing for bags?
So far, other than the milk bank donations, I have only made donations to two moms so far, and I was using the ice cube trays in freezer ziplock bags, so I didn't even think to ask to be reimbursed. I have bought about 150 Lansinoh bags with my current baby, and I know these milk bags cost a lot (50 for $11 or 25 for $6 at local walmart).
So, I think you may want to kindly ask if they can reimburse you for the bags. i don't think any recipient would refuse to reimburse you. In theory, donors shouldn't have to incur any cost when donating milk. I know it's a lot of work in time and effort to pump extra milk. If we add up all the time to pump extra, it'd be like one to two hours extra a day. Please don't get discouraged; I'm sure those recipient moms appreciated your milk more than you think they did
watawata- Posts : 25
Join date : 2010-01-04
Re: What's the deal with recipients not reimbursing for bags?
"Expenses should NOT be the responsibility of the donor. Aside from her pump, recipient families should be paying for shipping, bags, and other supplies in full at the time of donation or immediately after. If you can not afford these costs, then it should be your responsisbility to find a way to raise the funds. Donor mothers are already giving their time and tremendous effort and, even though they want all children to have the advantages of breastmilk, it is not approprite to expect that they will also pay financially for your child to benefit."
I shouldn't have to ask. It's awkward for me to have to ask people to pony up, you know? I can afford to buy the bags but I feel like it's disrespectful for the recipient to not pay for the bags - I already have the expense of a hospital grade pump, the pumping kit, heck, the extra food I need to eat to make the milk. Not to mention the hour or two a day I could be spending doing other things with and for my family.
If you think about it, donor milk is a lot cheaper than formula if you're just reimbursing bags. A 25oz can of Similac formula costs well over $20 and makes almost 190oz of formula. 190 oz of milk will fit into less than 50 lansinoh bags easily, even 25 if you fill 'em full.
Jaz- Posts : 35
Join date : 2010-01-14
Re: What's the deal with recipients not reimbursing for bags?
As a receiving mom, I always do my best to make sure that the process of donating milk costs the donating mother nothing but her time.
I'm sorry this has happened to you. As far as I know, most moms happily reimburse. I'm sure some just aren't really familiar/comfortable with the practices of milksharing. They obviously haven't read the rules of etiquette.
Bekki&Evelyn- Posts : 29
Join date : 2010-01-06
Re: What's the deal with recipients not reimbursing for bags?
IzzeFloch wrote: maybe a new recipient is too caught up with trying to find milk that she forgot to consider what the donor has to do to get this milk to her.
Bingo. Regretfully, I am one of these mothers that didn't offer to pay for the bags my first time around. The ongoing stress of trying to find milk is all-consuming for me. And in those early days I took everything at face value, I really needed it to be spelled out for me. In no way do I think that recipient mothers who fail to read the etiquette or abide by it are less grateful, just more forgetful or obtuse! I would strongly encourage all donor mothers to speak up for your expectations. I know as a recipient mother, I will do everything I can to meet them. Bags are a pretty obvious offer and I am sure it does seem wholly disrespectful for a recipient not to offer. I can only say how utterly appreciative of and full of respect for our donors I am, and yet, I, too, have been a complete blockhead and not offered!
mcthom- Posts : 40
Join date : 2010-02-17
Location : Triangle, NC
Re: What's the deal with recipients not reimbursing for bags?
meghanmcbee- Posts : 17
Join date : 2010-01-04
Re: What's the deal with recipients not reimbursing for bags?
I would love see a thread about what recipients do for donors.
mcthom- Posts : 40
Join date : 2010-02-17
Location : Triangle, NC
Re: What's the deal with recipients not reimbursing for bags?
meghanmcbee- Posts : 17
Join date : 2010-01-04
Re: What's the deal with recipients not reimbursing for bags?
I think that it's only fair to ask if your donor wants something other than bags. If it's cash she asks for, please consider it. We aren't selling you milk but we may be asking you to make it a little easier to do this for you. As donors, we all have out of pocket expenses attributable to pumping.
Jaz- Posts : 35
Join date : 2010-01-14
Re: What's the deal with recipients not reimbursing for bags?
meghanmcbee- Posts : 17
Join date : 2010-01-04
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