looking for donor milk for adopted daughter with special needs

I'm in Redmond and have close to 200 ounces in the freezer that needs a home ASAP (coming up on 3 months!). If you're still looking for milk, please email me - lila.neumann@gmail.com I'd love to help!

We live about 30 miles north of seattle in evrett. I am able to meet on weekends in seattle. Please email me at applebttom7618@tmo.blackberry.net

I am in Bellevue, WA
You can email me at jaime.gerber@gmail.com

jblank77 wrote:Are you still in need of milk? Let me know,
Jaime

Yes, Jaime, Delara still needs milk. Where are you located?

Thank you!

Cynthia

Are you still in need of milk? Let me know,
Jaime

I would love to help you out. I live in Olympia. Feel free to contact me to talk more about this.

I may have some milk in the freezer. Please contact me as there are some details you will need to make that decision for you and your child.
Georgianna
Modernalice@comcast.net

Dear donor mothers:

Whether you offer your milk to my daughter or not, thank you for wanting to help a little one in need.

I am looking for donor milk for my adopted daughter. She now has no steady milk donors and her supply of donor milk is dangerously low. The impact of her traumatic start in life is increasingly evident. Only four pounds at birth, she's coped with extended hospitalization, institutional neglect in an Iranian orphanage, severe malnutrition, severe allergy to formula (which she was forced to consume for her first year of life), surgery at six months, almost no human milk for her first year of life, and gastrointestinal bleeding when not having human milk. Recent evaluations have shown neurodevelopmental and musculoskeletal challenges including torticollis, asymmetric carriage of her arms (possibly due to the after-effects of mild Erb's palsy), hearing loss in one ear, and significant developmental delay of expressive speech with a suspected diagnosis of childhood apraxia of speech. Her speech therapist referred her for yet another evaluation for sensory integration dysfunction. Sure enough, she does have sensory integration dysfunction, which is affecting her systemically and, particularly, is preventing her from using her mouth in the usual way--impacting her ability to speak (in addition to the impact of motor-planning problems), likely explaining her very late start on solids and her difficulty consuming enough table foods and drinks to not need the contribution of human milk, and likely explaining, in part, her difficulty learning to breastfeed after being bottle-fed in the orphanage. When she doesn't have enough human milk, she is much more vulnerable to illness. I have no doubt that donor milk has prevented two hospitalizations from dehydration during illness. She continues to require a great deal of night time mothering, which is when she wants human milk the most and which is when she is least emotionally capable of being told "no--there is no more milk to give you." Her traumatic start in life has left her with little tolerance for frustration, especially when she is tired. I have no doubt that she knows what she needs--and that is continued human milk. But, it's again only a matter of time before I will not have milk to give her. At the age of two, it is so very, very hard to find donor milk for her. I am still pumping around the clock, but I only produce about 2 ounces each day for her. It is so very, very frustrating.

We are so low on milk for Delara' that I've had to dilute it and ration it this week, all while trying to get her to eat and drink more table foods and drinks, which she just can't do as efficiently as other toddlers because of the sensory integration issues she has in her mouth. She has been just miserable this week, crying like her heart is broken when I've told her she can't have more milk right now. Given all of her special needs, searching for donor milk for her is an ongoing effort. So even if you read this post once it is quite dated, please consider contacting me to see if she needs more milk. The answer is likely to be yes! Although we live near Portland, Oregon, my husband works in Seattle during the week. So, he can pick up milk in Seattle, Vancouver, .... anywhere headed south toward Portland from Seattle.

On behalf of Delara', thank you so very much,

Cynthia

Cynthia Good Mojab, MS, IBCLC, RLC, CATSM
Clinical Counselor
International Board Certified Lactation Consultant
Adoptive mother
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