The overall exhaustion, emotional trauma, inadequacy and terror at seeing my son barely gain weight from week to week overwhelmed me. I had several total meltdowns a week, sometimes more than one in a day. I measured every mililiter and cried if a drop went astray. I was in hell for 4 and a half months until I found milkshare and my donor.
I posted to milkshare and found a continuous donor only 50 miles away who made exactly enough each day to meet the minimum 24oz on average daily between us both. Iwould pick it up every 3 weeks and bought all the bags she wanted. The donated milk was the most beautiful, happy, insanely wonderful thing that could have happened to me at this time, let alone how it effected my son's health. From the first day of supplementing with real milk, my mind began to heal and I slowly came to grips with my sad reality and was able to mourn and de-stress for the first time since week one of BF.
She donated until my son was 13 months and at that point I was able to just breastfeed on my own what I did have. My life was changed by her generosity and magnitude of her commitment. My son grew healthy on her milk and mine... she helped raise and nourish him and she saved me from hating myself for the rest of my nursing experience.
I breastfeed happily for the next 20 months because I was given confidence and support from her milk.
DONATING HEALTHY, RAW, NOURISHING, HUMAN MILK TO WOMEN AND BABIES WHO NEED IT IS THE MOST AMAZING THING YOU MAY EVER DO FOR A STRANGER OR LOVED ONE. EVERY DONOR IS BOTH A SAINT AND SAVIOR.
IF YOU CAN SPARE, PLEASE SHARE, WE REALLY CARE!
After trying every natural and physical and mental way to improve my chances of exclusively breastfeeding my second son born August 2014, I was unable to produce enough again, though I slightly improved to 18oz a day. A few months of formula supplementing later, my wonderful donor mom for my first baby called and told me she had a baby the same month I did and was now in the same position as before, with extra milk to donate. I cannot communicate melt elation and gratitude, my thanks to God...she provided us with 3&1/2 months of milk before she stopped working and stopped pumping her extra milk. That equalled over 4 gallons of breast milk! Our family had again been blessed by her and milkshare as we watched our new baby grow and advance in his abilities due to this wonderful gift!
Again I encourage everyone to donate if they can-it's such a beautiful and amazing gift and for us who receive, we appreciate and can begin to mentally heal/destress when we have such support for our beloved children.
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I admire you for maintaining your own supply for so long! It's so hard to do both nursing and supplementing. You are an inspiration to me. I've always wanted to nurse for a year + but have never made it past about 7 months. Of course, having babies back to back didn't help with that. But now that I'm on my (presumed) last baby I really want to stick with it as long as I can. I love nursing!
Thank you to all those wonderful moms who donate their excess, pump more to make more to donate, and share their time and precious milk with those of us that want to give our babies all that we can nutritionally. Thank you for your selfless gift!
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